Barry makes me sing and cry

I have an unhealthy love for Barry Manilow’s music. It is toe-tapping, happy and brings on a belt-it-out sing-a-long which disturbs not only my sons but my husband too. I saw Barry Manilow perform live at the Sydney Entertainment Centre back in 1994 and I still count it amongst the best concerts I have ever attended. It was full of laughter and joy with great audience participation. Barry is a funny man.

I have many favourite Bazza songs but I particularly love “I Can’t Smile Without You”. This song can give you such a happiness high when you are with the person you love, whether you are singing it with your partner, child, parent or friend. Yet, it is the sadness it invokes when it comes on the radio and I am not with the people I love, with my sons, my husband and sadly my long departed father, that touches me most. This song makes me cry.

In this clip, Barry is accompanied by the accordian and BBC Orchestra.

Oh! And I still own the T-shirt!

You know I can’t smile without you
I can’t smile without you
I can’t laugh and I can’t sing
I’m finding it hard to do anything
You see I feel sad when you’re sad
I feel glad when you’re glad
If you only knew what I’m going through
I just can’t smile without you

You came along just like a song
And brighten my day
Who would of believed that you where part of a dream
Now it all seems light years away

And now you know I can’t smile without you
I can’t smile without you
I can’t laugh and I can’t sing
I’m finding it hard to do anything
You see I feel sad when your sad
I feel glad when you’re glad
If you only knew what I’m going through
I just can’t smile

Now some people say happiness takes so very long to find
Well, I’m finding it hard leaving your love behind me

And you see I can’t smile without you
I can’t smile without you
I can’t laugh and I can’t sing
I’m finding it hard to do anything
You see I feel glad when you’re glad
I feel sad when you’re sad
If you only knew what I’m going through
I just can’t smile without you

Standing up for Banned Words

In library circles and the greater book reading industry there is a strong anti-censorship understanding that sees readers, authors, publishers, librarians and many others defending the right to read books that push boundaries with which different members of society may find issue.

Lobby groups, mostly in the US, highlight the books that teachers, librarians and other educators are called upon to defend due to parental and community concern. I think this is a great practice but what I haven’t seen is a banned words lobby.

That’s correct. Banned Words. For I am a word game fiend from a young age.

I love my crosswords, Scrabbles, Scrambles, find-a-words. I’ll do them in print, digital, and board game form. It is such an obsession that my 10 year old strategises Scrabble games and consistently scores over 250 in pursuit of beating me. My mother-in-law was always very nice to me but it wasn’t until I beat her in a game of Scrabble that I felt I had earned her respect.

So it is with that in mind that I object to the online puritanical, cleaned up dictionaries that have cost me valuable points in word games.

I could have scored 45 for whores, slutty would have given me 17 and cunt would have been 26 (and the letter C is difficult enough to use without added restrictions), and why the hell (acceptable) is feck allowed but not fuck??

So all you banned book ralliers, lobbyists, defenders, I ask you to add your support to help instigate a true online dictionary that does not pander to just those individuals who don’t want to acknowledge that these are accepted words in English dictionaries. They are not slang, they are not colloquialisms. They are a part of the richness and versatility of the English language.

I am not advocating walking around and throwing about these words liberally and, although some might consider these words offensive, surely as adults we should be able to partake in word games and games companies should be able to provide us with the choice of opt in/opt out buttons to facilitate their use (or non-use).

So, from here on I will be tweeting every missed opportunity due to a banned word with the score it deprived me of, the game that I played, and the name of the gaming company. For example, Dear @Zynga, According to the Oxford English Dictionary fuck is an official word. I missed out on 22 points in Words With Friends #bannedwords

I ask everyone who reads this post to consider doing the same. Say “No!” to #bannedwords

Eye candy, chest hair and the category romance cover

I love my category romance fiction books and, along with my love for the stories, I also love the schmaltzy cover art. For what can be more soothing at the end of a tiring day, than an easy-on-the-eyes image of a handsome man on the cover of your current read.

Mills and Boon Covers

Mills and Boon Covers

But for many years, I would get annoyed at the waxed, glistening pecs on a torso on so many covers.  Now, unless the book is about a male model/exotic dancer/personal trainer, I prefer the cover to reflect the character. You know, white coats for the medics, suits for the business man, kanduras for the sheiks, western shirts for the cowboys and a black T-shirt for the firies. And though I know that some readers like to see the muscle bound man on the cover, I find it very hard to reconcile myself to the hardened Montana cowboy or Australian outback station owner driving/flying to Helena or Barcaldine for their monthly manscaping appointment as it is contradictory to the character I am reading about. And the reality is, most men have chest hair. And it is lovely and it is normal.

I often wonder about historians in 3011. The apocalypse had been and gone with a second dark age where everything had been burnt and annihilated. However, there is a rare discovery of boxes of discarded category romances found during an archaeological dig. These boxes are the only insight into the early second millenium. After a long investigation, these learned historians come to the summation that thousands of years ago melodrama was the stance of the normal couple, women only wore flowing, backless dresses and men had no chest hair yet had really well-developed pecs and abs.

When I suggested on Twitter that cover artists were briefed to not make men hirsute, fellow romance reader and tweeter, McVane, reasoned:

@McVane: @VaVeros Instructed? I'm surprised. I had always assumed it was cos hairy chests are bloody too difficult to paint/illustrate.

This makes a lot of sense to me and I have to agree though, if you can be bothered searching, there are some fab cover illustrations from the 70s and 80s that are exceptions such as Anne Weale’s Passage to Paxos.

So, after a long hiatus from browsing the eharlequin website, I thought I’d have a quick look at the upcoming releases. And what a pleasant surprise it was to see a hairy chested man on the occasional cover. No longer did the men have prepubescent hairless physiques  but they represented a (kinda) norm. The buffed, oiled (squick me out) hero can still be seen in all his flexed (eww) glory over at the Blaze line. But the other lines are that tad bit more realistic (bwahahaha), and in my opinion, sexier. Though I wish HMB had used a  hot hot hot Westmoreland rather than a boring old stetson on a chair on this book. For the most part, cover heroes are all in suits (yum) and regular clothes (yay) with the occasional half-dressed-in-the-bedroom or sunset-on-the-beach-in-slightly-rolled-up-trousers scenes (hmmm).

I recall that sometime last year Harlequin/Mills and Boon ran a Twitter survey asking reader preferences for hair or no hair and I would like to think that the current changes are a reflection of the responses that they received.

And, for what it’s worth, I’d love to see more black haired, blue eyed heroes wearing a suit with their shirt opened only slightly at the neck.

Alphabet vs Genre

As a child, I remember progressing from the picture books to the chapter books at my local children’s library, The Warren in Marrickville. Upon my progression to the Junior Fiction section, disorganised child that I was, I made the decision to delve into the collection at the beginning. At A. And I would progress until I read every book in this, albeit tiny, branch library. I read Alcott’s Little Women, Brink’s Baby Island, Brown’s Flat Stanley, Cleary’s Henry Huggins and Ramona the Pest and as you could imagine the list goes on and on all the way to Zindel’s The Pigman. (As an aside, I spent about a year at E and F having hit the mother lode with Elizabeth Enright, Eleanor Estes, Edward Eager and Eleanor Farjeon). I went on to use the same method when I matured from the children’s library and I moved up two flights of stairs to the then Adult Library at Marrickville Town Hall under the beautiful stained glass ceiling.

Once again, I started at A and progressed slowly through the collection. Serendipity ruled for me. And browsing shelves alphabetically, whether in a bookshop or a library was great because, unlike Dewey, it was simple and unbiased. I just read whatever caught my fancy. Steven King, Leon Uris, Wilbur Smith, Isabelle Allende, Penny Jordan, Carole Mortimer all interfiled in the one big area. Horror, literature, romance, fantasy all there. Despite this, I still discovered my favourite genre, I still found my favourite romance authors. This was objective shelving, for while the library may not pass judgements on different genres, people sometimes do, and link a writer’s, and even reader’s quality, to their preferred genre.

Over the last 10 years, libraries have seen a shift in the layout of their spaces and the way people access their shelves. There is a lot more display space, bookshop layout is aspired towards, and this is all very positive as it makes libraries much more attractive and appealing places to their members. But I am ambivalent about the reorginisation of books according to the genre that they fall in. Unlike retailers, libraries are not about profit margins but about unbiased access to information and cultural materials. Selection may be unbiased but we are seeing a move towards subjective organisation.

Now don’t get me wrong. I am a big fan of genre fiction. Over the last 30 years my reading has seen me devour comics, horror, literature, children’s fiction and, of course my mainstay fiction favourite, romance. To add to these, I will occasionally dabble in fantasy, science fiction and my least favourite (and only because I’m squeamish), crime. But I found my favourites by browsing unbiased shelves. And much as I love walking into my favourite bookshops and libraries and heading straight to the romance shelves I often wonder about the people who will miss out on reading a fabulous romance because they don’t want to be seen in the romance section or the science fiction fan who just doesn’t want to read literary work. Somehow, I feel that it is like apartheid for books (harsh words, I know!).

For, heaven forbid Dean R Koontz is shelved near Milan Kundera, or Roald Dahl to be seen alongside Victoria Dahl, or Howard Jacobson grace the same shelf as Eloisa James. And then, what of the books that sit across genres such as Charlaine Harris’ Sookie Stackhouse and J. R. Ward’s Black Dagger Brotherhood books that sit comfortably in both fantasy or romance genres. Or benchmark setting authors such as Margaret Atwood – does she sit in literature or speculative fiction. Genre-based shelving endorses a classification of fiction that may not be needed.

I know that as a child, I loved discovering books and that none of them had genre labels. As an adult, I am struggling to decide upon whether I like the genrification of libraries or if I would like fiction, to once again, be a roll call of authors on shelves.

* strikethrough added a few years after I first posted this

Darling Be Home Soon

I love The Lovin’ Spoonful/John Sebastian’s Darling Be Home Soon. It has been covered by many artists from Bobby Darin, Allison Crowe, Joe Cocker and Slade. The simple lyrics to this song still bring tears to my eyes. They speak of needing those moments where you talk and talk and talk with the person you adore. A hand holding song.

Darling Be Home Soon

Lyrics by John Sebastian

Come
And talk of all the things we did today
Here
And laugh about our funny little ways
While we have a few minutes to breathe
Then I know that it’s time you must leave

But darling be home soon
I couldn’t bear to wait an extra minute if you dawdled
My darling be home soon
It’s not just these few hours but I’ve been waiting since I toddled
For the great relief of having you to talk to

And now
A quarter of my life is almost past
I think I’ve come to see myself at last
And I see that the time spent confused
Was the time that I spent without you
And I feel myself in bloom

So darling be home soon
I couldn’t bear to wait an extra minute if you dawdled
My darling be home soon
It’s not just these few hours but I’ve been waiting since I toddled
For the great relief of having you to talk to

Darling be home soon
I couldn’t bear to wait an extra minute if you dawdled
My darling be home soon
It’s not just these few hours but I’ve been waiting since I toddled
For the great relief of having you to talk to

Go
And beat your crazy head against the sky
Try
And see beyond the houses and your eyes
It’s ok to shoot the moon

So darling
My darling be home soon
I couldn’t bear to wait an extra minute if you dawdled
My darling be home soon
It’s not just these few hours but I’ve been waiting since I toddled
For the great relief of having you to talk to

Nanna Naps and the books that bring them on

The Urban Dictionary defines Nanna Naps as:

I would go further and add the stipulation that a Nanna Nap is never taken on a bed. It is never planned. One has a Nanna Nap by mistake. One has a Nanna Nap while waiting for the washing machine to finish its rinse cycle. One has a Nanna Nap while Ridge and Brooke fight over Brooke kissing another of Ridge’s male relatives or while Bo and Hope try to come to terms with their years spent apart due to being brainwashed into thinking they were royalty. One has a Nanna Nap while one’s boiling hot tea is cooling only to wake up to a cold Lapsang Souchong. Or, quite importantly, Nanna Naps are taken when the book you are reading, rather than amaze you and enthrall you, has sent you into Morpheus’s arms due to its somnabalistic prose. I am a regular partaker of Nanna Naps. Most often on my couch though occassionally in a chair (and dang it my neck is a mess after those). And sometimes I have them while I am in the car. This is fine when I am a passenger but not so good if I am the driver * WARNING: Nanna Naps can kill

Books I have Nanna Napped with:

Juliet, Naked by Nick Hornby

I have such love for Nick Hornby. A romance writer under the guise of lad lit and music lit. Every book has an angsty bloke and every bloke gets the girl in the end. And Juliet, Naked is no different. I usually stop reading a book that will send me to sleep but this one had an epistolary element to it and I felt I needed to persevere. I’m glad I did as it guaranteed me a Nanna Nap per sitting and I was much more refreshed when I awakened.

Don’t Look Down by Jennifer Crusie and Bob Mayer

Don’t get me wrong here, for I adore Jennifer Crusie as a writer. She is in my top 2 authors ever. I lubs her muchly. And also in my top 2 books ever is Jennifer Crusie and Bob Mayer’s book Agnes and the Hitman. Yet, Don’t Look Down took me 3 years and a number of false starts before I managed to push past a Nanna Nap on page 7. Yes, every attempt had me nod, nod, nodding off. In the end, the book was a decent adventure/romance read.

Heart of Darkness by Joseph Conrad

Reading this book became such a sure thing for having a Nanna Nap that it almost defied the rule of a Nanna Nap being unplanned. Tired but can’t get to sleep…perhaps Conrad’s description the ships lying in wait for the Thames wash is the answer, as time and time again this had me breathing little “ks” of sleep. Once again, I persevered and love this densely descriptive book.

Odysseus by Ken Catran (audiobook)

I love Greek Mythology and I particularly love hearing the stories told rather than reading them as they represent thousands of years of oral storytelling traditions. All I remember of this audiobook is driving onto the expressway heading out of Sydney for Nelson Bay and then waking up outside of our hotel 2 hours later with both my sons telling me about the gory killing and maiming they heard in the story. Two things stand out in my mind. The first is that I loved their excitement for the story and the second is how grateful I felt that I was not the driver. Since that day, unless it is a comedian, I never listen to audiobooks when I am the driver.

Vineland by Thomas Pynchon

This was one of the 9 books that I removed from my home in my annual purge of books I will never read. I recall opening the book. I think Chapter 1 starts with a domestic scene and then…..zzz (a Nanna Nap beckons me even as I type about this book).

June was a quiet month….

Well, it wasn’t really quiet at all. It was only quiet here on Shallowreader (apart from our sad Digger Dog post) as I was off blogging at Read It 2011 as part of #blogeverydayofJune (or more popularly known as #blogjune). Thankfully, the blogging was shared between 6 of us. It was challenging to make sure that a post went out everyday. A google doc schedule kept us all to task though there were some last minute fill in and swaps. All in all, it was fun and it has left me with a long list of blog ideas for Shallowreader.

On top of all this, I was also asked to write a guest blog for the lovely writers over at Down Under Divas.

On Bookshelfporn

Here is a list of my blog posts for Read It 2011:

The Book That Launched a Thousand Trips

From Elizabeth Enright to Adam Gopnik: Living a New City Reading Life 

Travelling Through the Sense of Home

Vale Patrick Leigh Fermor

Have eReader – Will Travel

Eighty Years of Tintin and Still Travelling

Armchair Romance Makes the World Go Round

Enjoy!

Our Digging-est Dog

When my husband was a young child, his favourite book was The Digging-est Dog by Al Perkins, illustrated by Eric Gurney. As soon as our first child was born, he went out and bought a brand new copy of this book and we both read it to both our sons who, in turn, also loved The Digging-est Dog. So when we decided four years ago to get a dog we were fortuitous enough to find the perfect little dog from the Sydney Cat and Dog Home. Part cairn terrier and other parts unknown, this 3 year old little dog, despite being micro-chipped and registered, had been found on the streets and went by the name Tigger. Now, we weren’t all that thrilled by the Winnie-the-Poohesque name but we were well aware that he already recognised his own name so we changed it, only slightly, to Digger. The name conjured up all the best elements of both the childhood classic and the quintessentially Australian term. The name almost begged for a quick wink while saying it.

In the book, Sam could not dig (how could he learn on the hard concrete floor of the pet shop). True to form, if not name, Digger could not dig. He begged, shook hands, rolled over and could even do backflips (though he never really mastered fetching). But we thought that the digging gene had passed this dog by. This was not something we were overly concerned about. Non-digging in dogs can be a good thing, and Digger didn’t seem to be ostracized by the neighbourhood dogs for this inability (unlike poor Sam who got laughed at by even the smallest, mangiest mutt). Then one day we came out to find a hole in the garden, with Digger standing proudly beside his handiwork.

Digger explored digging in a haphazard fashion. Some months would go by without so much as a scratching, followed by something not unlike an escape attempt from Stalag 13. His digging abilities allowed him to escape from a temporary enclosure in the large backyard of my mother’s house while our backyard was being turned into a building site. Each time huzbah would walk triumphantly back to the house having added another inescapable addition to the fence he was beaten back by Digger, tail wagging with a look that said “that was fun, try another one!” It turned out Digger was digging out even large tent pegs to facilitate his escapes.

Digger’s also loved being with us at all times. When we first brought him home he had that rescue dog anxiety that tears at your heart. An anxiety that you will leave him behind, an anxiety upon seeing cats and an almost desperate need to please his owners. I have no idea how someone who could lovingly own a dog for 3 years, train him so well and then so either callously or carelessly dump him and leave him to his own devices on the street.

The first day we had Digger we took him for a walk to the local shops and while there a car came to a stop and the driver almost ran out crying “Tigger!” We were horrified that this dog, with whom we had already bonded, had been ‘found’ by his erstwhile owners. However it was one of the many wonderful volunteers at the Sydney Cat and Dog Rescue Home, all of whom, it appeared, had fallen in love with this most lovable of animals.

A houdini-like dog presents challenges for dog owners, especially when we temporarily were staying at my mum’s. Left to his own devices in the back yard, he dug out mum’s vegetable garden and left little surprises where they would remain unnoticed by all but the most eagle-eyed of grandparents or innocent fingered of toddlers. Tying up a dog is cruel. Luckily, my sister in law who lives in the country came to the rescue and offered to take care of him. Digger who had visited the farm with us many times, loved the farm, with its expansive running and digging opportunities, and with acres of land on which to defecate freely (although curiously, he seemed to confine this to the immediate vicinity of the main house).

Fencing designed to keep much larger animals in proves ineffective at farms for domestic animals, but Digger, like most dogs, didn’t stray far from the house. However, yesterday, Digger strayed from character and in a tragic chain of events, ran under my sister-in-law’s car as she left the farm. He gave out a sharp yelp and died almost instantly. We received a call moments later from my distraught sister-in-law. While we made the sad journey to the farm, her family put together the most touching tribute to a dog ever seen. Her 5-year-old son collected flowers, her husband etched a small headstone, and other younger children staying on the farm, witnesses to the event, helped pay their respects collecting berries and even making a wreath. My own sons, stoically helped dig Digger’s grave down on the point near the river.

Digger looked peaceful and happy as he was laid to rest in the last moments of daylight yesterday, with all of us there to pay our respects and to say good bye to our own most digging-est dog.

I’m dreaming of bookshelves

When I was 6, I went to the State Library of NSW for a school visit, returned home and told my father that when I grew up I was going to work and sleep there amongst the stack rows. Ten years later, I would study at the awe-inspiring Mitchell Library, back in the day when anyone could climb the stairs and access the books. My favourite, dream-like study spot was in front of the 938’s, from memory, it was up one flight of stairs on the right hand side.

Mitchell Library, Sydney (#24) / Christopher Chan

Now, I am a librarian but I have yet to sleep in a library let alone the State Library (though, funnily enough, I have managed to lock a borrower in the library overnight but that is another story). My own home is full of books and there isn’t a single room that doesn’t have bookshelves – including the bathroom and laundry. Which has brought me to dream of 1 bookshelf. 1 floor-to-ceiling bookshelf, 1 floor-to-ceiling, need-a-ladder-to-reach-the-top, kickass bookshelf.